1) Find a “should” thought behind your mental stress;
2) Pare the thought down to something specific like, “I feel like I should be quitting my job;”
3) Ask yourself the question: “Is it physically possible for me to be doing this right now?” (If your body is engaged in some other task, then the answer is no);
4) Now tell yourself that if it is physically impossible for you to attend to that action right now (quitting your job because you are currently cleaning the bathtub), then what follows is, “I should not be quitting my job now,” which subsequently means, “I am not supposed to be quitting my job now,” and finally, “I am supposed to be cleaning the bathtub now.” (In all of these examples it is useful to remember that whenever you will be checking in with yourself, it will be now.)
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