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Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings

Thibaut Meurisse

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Summary Notes

What is the EGO?

  • Your ego also plays a significant role in shaping the way you feel.
  • Thus, to gain more control over your emotions, it is fundamental you understand what your ego is and how it works.
  • The ego refers to the self-identity you’ve constructed throughout your life. How was this identity created? Put simply, the ego was created through your thoughts and, as a mind-created identity, has no concrete reality.
  • Note that the ego is neither good nor bad; it’s just a result of a lack of self-awareness.

The Nature of Emotions

  • To start taking control of your emotions you must accept they are transient. You must learn to let them pass without feeling the need to identify strongly with them.
  • You must allow yourself to feel sad without adding commentaries such as, “I shouldn’t be sad,” or “What’s wrong with me?” Instead, you must allow reality to just be.
  • Your emotions act like magnets. They attract thoughts on the same ‘wave.’ That’s why, when you’re in a negative state, you easily attract other negative thoughts, and by latching onto these thoughts you make the situation worse.

Sleep and Moods

  • The quality of your sleep and how much of it you get affects your emotional state.
  • According to a survey performed on people suffering from anxiety or depression most of the respondents reported receiving less than six hours sleep per night.
  • How to Improve the quality of sleep:

1. Make sure your room is pitch black.

2. Avoid using electronic devices

3. Relax your mind.

4. Avoid drinking too much water within two hours of going to bed.

5. Have an evening ritual.

Letting Go of Emotions

Emotions are just emotions. They are not you, they are not facts, and you can let them go. ​— ​Hale Dworkin, The Sedona Method.
  • Most of us have too much emotional baggage and need to learn to let go of it. We need to declutter our subconscious and get rid of the negative emotions preventing us from enjoying life to the fullest.
  • 5 Step Process of Letting Go of Emotions:
Focus on a certain emotion you would like to work on so you can feel better.

Ask yourself one of the following questions: Could I let this feeling go? Could I allow this feeling to be here? Could I welcome this feeling?

Then ask yourself, “Would I?”

Ask yourself, “When”?

Repeat this process as many times as necessary for that particular feeling to disappear.

Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings

Thibaut Meurisse

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